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54. Healing And Growing Through Grief with Dipti Solanki

• Charlotte Carter

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After losing her mother to medical negligence at just 13, Dipti Solanki carried unresolved grief that quietly influenced her life until an emotional breakdown forced her to confront it head-on. Discover how this pivotal moment led her to redefine her understanding of grief and embark on a mission to help others through holistic healing practices.

Dipti talks about the importance of addressing grief and loss. She emphasises the need for early support and education about grief, as well as the importance of talking about death. We also discuss the power of the heart in processing grief and the concept of authenticity.

Dipti's journey offers a profound look into the transformative power of addressing hidden pain, even amidst external success.

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Website: www.diptisolanki.com
Grief Matters 4 All: www.griefmatters4all.co.uk
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Dipti's book recommendation: It's Not Your Money: How To Live Fully From Divine Abundance

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to Becoming Fearless, the personal growth podcast for you if you are ready to overcome fear and step into your greatness. Our purpose is to help you overcome your limits, have loads of fun along the way, unlocking your fullest potential in life, business, health and relationships every single day. I'm your host, charlotte Carter, a high performance coach and entrepreneur with over 20 years experience. I'm your host, charlotte Carter, a high-performance coach and entrepreneur with over 20 years experience. I've supported many highly driven, talented people like you who dream big and are ready to take action to overcome what's holding them back. Each week, my guests and I will be sharing hacks and habits on how to build self-belief, courage and confidence, to master your mindset and navigate your emotions so that you can reach your human potential in a way that feels light, fun and easeful and helps you become fearless. Let's go.

Speaker 2:

Hello everybody and welcome to another episode of Becoming Fearless. I am delighted to bring you another guest episode with a wonderful lady who I met at one of our mutual friends 50th birthday party and we just kind of connected at the party and ever since really on on multiple levels, on just on multiple levels. Let's leave it like that. So let me just introduce yourself, what you do, who you help and a little bit of background about yourself.

Speaker 3:

Hello Charlotte, good to be here on this basking hop today. Yeah, so I'm Dixie Solanki. I'm many things, but at the moment I'm identifying as a grief coach, so I help people heal through all different types of loss. I bring education about how loss extends beyond just bereavement and I really help people to grow through the experiences and evolve and yeah, so that we don't stay stuck in that grief.

Speaker 2:

It's such a needed area of work that you have. It is um, I imagine that people that work with you get absolutely phenomenal support in a safe, supportive manner, but also in a, like you say, in that element of growth and elements of transformation and probably changing into people that they might not necessarily thought they could be.

Speaker 3:

So let's go so let's go right. So it means interrupt you, let's just get talking so let's get talking.

Speaker 2:

Let's get talking, so let's go back to what I want to ask you one question first of all and why are you a grief coach?

Speaker 3:

yeah, I definitely didn't wake up one day when I was a kid and thought I want to be a grief coach when I grow up, um, so it was very much personal experience. It was, um, it was losing my mother to medical negligence when I was 13 years old. Very, very suddenly, um, and I had an amazing family who kind of gathered around me and grief was apparent for the 12 days ceremony and then everyone just got on with it and you know they tried so hard to make life normal and so it kind of felt normal and we carried on and externally I did really well went to university, got married, I had my first job. I wanted to be a politician, so I walked into my first job as a parliamentary researcher. But something didn't feel right and I had this incredible, very, very amazing emotional and mental breakdown and I couldn't understand why. And so knocking on lots and lots of therapist's doors over the years because I just wanted to understand why I was offered lots of different kind of pharmaceutical solutions. But I didn't want that. I wanted to understand what was going on. It did not make sense to me, and that's where homeopathy was my biggest friend, where it helped me to deal with the extreme panic attacks and the anxiety.

Speaker 3:

And then eventually someone tapped me on my shoulder and said Ditty, my darling, this is grief. And I looked at them and said don't be so ridiculous. And I said, no, that was such a long time ago, you know, I was a teenager. I really don't think about it. And they went no, no, no, it is. So I thought, well, what have I got to lose?

Speaker 3:

And I went on this journey with a grief coach and it blew my mind and I remember just every cell in my body thinking why does no one talk about this? This, suddenly, has made my whole existence so far make sense and everything I've been experiencing, and no one talks about this. You know, we're taught to manage grief and hope with anxiety, and these are, you know, coping mechanisms for panic attacks. But we don't have to deal with any of that. Actually, we need to deal with what's at the core. So it was that.

Speaker 3:

That was the thing that made me think I'm going to talk about this. I'm going to shout it from the rooftops, I'm going to knock on as many doors as I can, because grief is about more than just bereavement. Um, and so you know, I trained in many different guises. We've talked about that. I'm a trained energy practitioner. I'm trained in homeopathy. I'm a trained grief coach, life coach, uh, also end-of-life care. I'm a sole midwife but also we need to talk about death more as well. But also my latest thing, my training, my final one, I promise, is I'm training as a therapist, a counselor, so that I can really provide holistic support to people I love that I and thank you for sharing that and I.

Speaker 2:

Can we just sort of set the scene a little bit for the listeners? How old were you when you had what you talk about, this breakdown? How long so you lost your mum when you're 13? How old were you when you first sort of had this, went into that job until I'm gone, this is you know, everything kind of fell away for you 22.

Speaker 2:

So it's nine years old, yeah, so nine, so nine years, and in your experience now, if we just jump a little bit in your experience now as a grief coach and obviously with all these other modalities and the therapy that you're going to bring to the world as well, do you feel like they were nine like misguided years? Do you feel like if you were guiding a 13 year old you that getting in early is right or what's kind of a the ideal for somebody that's in that situation, would you say there's probably no ideal, but everybody's individual.

Speaker 3:

Yeah look, I think, I think that was supposed to be my experience, um, because otherwise I wouldn't be sitting here today, but I think that if I were to see a 13-year-old in the same situation as me right now, I think early support is so important. I also think that grief is not a medical condition, it's not an ailment. It's a very, very normal and natural process. But unfortunately, it's a natural process that we try to shy away from because it's hard and it's painful and it's messy. So, yeah, I think that that would be my approach and I think, you know, because I had that journey, because I have this information when I lost my dad very recently well, feels like yesterday, it was during COVID, two COVID, three and a half years ago my whole experience was very, very different.

Speaker 2:

And do you feel that this is kind of your life path? Let's talk a little bit about the energy and let's talk about your purpose, your passion. I totally agree with you when you say that you know this was the path that you from 13 to 22. That was definitely why you do what you do now. But what? Where's the energy for you in terms of this grief coaching? Do you feel like it's your purpose forever, or is this a transition, or do you have anything like that for yourself in terms of energetic?

Speaker 3:

quick question, um, in terms of the energy around it, I think it's very much encouraging people to connect, to reconnect to their hearts, and that can take lots of different guises.

Speaker 3:

And I think that's why the therapy training right now is coming in, because, yes, we hold grief in our hearts, but we hold so much else that we're disconnected from, and that energetic disconnection means that we can't step into our authentic selves. And I think that would be the best answer to that, because I truly believe there's a bigger plan and all I pray for every day and you know, this is something that my dad taught me I wake up every day and I say to the almighty please show me where I can be most useful today. And that can be. And you know, and I'm led in lots of different ways. Sometimes it's just sitting with my children, sometimes it's sitting with myself, sometimes it's sitting with lots of other people and doing what I do. So I think when we reconnect to our hearts, we can open up to the messages that each and every one get every day, but not all of us can hear or tune into.

Speaker 2:

I absolutely adore that answer, dixie, absolutely adore it. I did put you on the spot a bit, but you know what we're like. We go deep, we go in um we go deep, we do.

Speaker 2:

We did that within about 10 minutes of meeting each other. Um, we're not here for surface, um level of anything really, because we are very um, deep, impactful practitioners. So the work that we do is not easy on some level, but it is incredibly useful. Once you get through the stuff, it will be absolutely transformational. So let's talk a little bit, yeah, so let's talk a little bit about the power of the heart, and I'd like you to touch a little bit on the two areas you have the power of the heart in terms of processing grief, um, and the power of the heart in terms of this, like acknowledgement of death of being very much a part of life. You know, it's only certainty of life yeah, so.

Speaker 3:

So the heart, the heart on um, a physical level, you know, make sure that we take each breath that we take but also on an energetic level. So I do this whole training around the heart chakra and the energy behind it, and it's really important that, um, you know, osho said we need to get out of our hearts and get out of our heads and into our hearts. Okay, because most of us, especially in this time that we're living in, we live from a very much a head-led space and that leads to lots of fear, lots of disconnection, lots of hatefulness, lots of mistrust. It leads to all of that kind of stuff and that transfers into the heart. Our heart closes down. We feel like we need to protect our hearts. Our hearts do not want to feel pain. Why would we? So that's a self-protective mechanism, self-protective mechanism. However, the work, I believe, in my very humble opinion, is in very, very slowly taking away those barriers and opening up our hearts. And in opening up our hearts, we open up the wounds. The wounds need to be healed. Okay, some completely can be healed, some will remain open forever, but we need to be aware of them. But also, more than that, then we allow the heart to fulfill its maximum capacity to love in the world, to trust in the world. You know that connection, that we can get that authenticity. We allow the heart to hurt if it needs to. You know we allow the heart to feel fear if it needs to and move through that and I think the moving through, because energy never is stagnant. Energy is moving all the time and when that energy remains stagnant, our hearts remain closed down. So we need to start moving that energy.

Speaker 3:

So that is about the individual's evolution, it's about transformation. It's knowing that we're never the same person in any kind of one period of time. On a daily basis we're changing. Our cells change, our emotions change, we change. But because as humans we don't like change and when anything changes that causes grief, we very much try to cling on to things. I don't want anything to change, it's got to stay the same. I'm not used to that. This is the way that I do things and we just can't move with life. We cannot move with life and we stay stuck and it causes anxiety and depression and fear and hostility and a closing down. So yeah, so an energetic level. That's where this work helps. The second part of your question remind me.

Speaker 2:

To talk about the same sort of concept, but around death.

Speaker 3:

That's such a huge one. So I work with a lot of people who have experienced bereavement and I and the. You know it feels like so many people are surprised when death comes. And you know, that's not because we don't know, logically, that death is going to come. It's because a lot of us choose to ignore it. But imagine if we all lived knowing that we're definitely going to die. I think that life would be very different then. And also, you know, some people are lucky that they have signs that their loved one is going to die. You know, unfortunately, some people will suffer with illnesses, some people will suffer with all manner of things, but there are signs that your loved one's going to die.

Speaker 3:

And you have the opportunity and this is what I help people with at the end of life. You have the opportunity to have those conversations, that unfinished business. But so many people are frightened, don't know how to, don't know if it's the right thing, you know, and they don't have those conversations and that unfinished business leads to a deep, chronic grief that they can never begin. They don't know how to deal with, they don't know how to unpack that um, and it's important, it's important to talk about the conversation. So I know that me and my dad would talk about death a lot and you know I say well, dad, what about this and how do you want that? So when he died, I was very clear on what he wanted, on what his last wishes were, on how we were to carry on, and that didn't make it any less painful. But anyone who's experienced the early throes of grief will know just how debilitating it is, and it's one less thing to think about because you know, and so many families implode because they can't agree on these types of things as well. So it's so important to talk about death.

Speaker 3:

There's also this fear that so many people have that if we talk about death it invites it, and that's not the case, and culturally, for a lot of people, that's the thing. But death is an auspicious thing when it comes, and when it does come, we need to be able to meet it in the right way. You know, some people die very tragically and it's hard for them to see death as auspicious. I understand that, but especially in my case, in you know, through my cultural perspective, when death comes you've got release and so, yes, it's understanding it from everyone else's cultural perspective. But talking about death is so important.

Speaker 2:

I love this conversation, dixie, because you are so well placed, both personally and professionally, to hold people through like very difficult emotional times and guide them in a way that I don't know many other people that would be able to do that. So I know personally and in the work that I do, that one of the biggest journeys is, like you've mentioned, from your head to your heart. It's very, very challenging at times and, I will also say, massively transformational when you allow yourself to get there. So, part of the high performers that listen to the podcast and high achievers, they're very driven, they're very in the head and they kind of like blocked out their heart for fear of losing something or for fear of not being able to still be the achiever, or really through fear. Do you think there's a parallel in terms of people who are very driven in business and then how they react when it comes to talking about death or talking about grief?

Speaker 3:

yeah, so I'm smiling because, um, most of the people who decide to work with me on my one-to-one whether it's a three or six month one are high achievers, right, and, and it's never in the early throes of grief, it's they. They, they're achieving, they're doing what they need to, they're performing really well and on the outside they look like they've got their shizzle together. Okay. But what starts to happen to these high performers because of a disconnection to heart is they start to feel a numbness and they start to feel a. I know this is amazing, but why can I not feel the energy of it? Like what is wrong with me? I'm so ungrateful, like I feel, I'm feeling numb, I'm feeling disconnected, and eventually they find themselves to me, and it's only through other symptoms. They don't even know that grief is their issue. They have no idea that grief is their issue and it's those people that choose to do the one-to-one work where they're like I need to understand this, I need to know what's going on and when they understand that you know I call it the pressure pot of grief their heart effectively, and there is layers and layers and layers and layers of loss that they never acknowledged as loss ever, because that happened, but you've just got pushed through and that's the message, that that's the interjected beliefs that they have, that I've just got to keep going because, you know, if I stay strong, it means that I don't have to feel.

Speaker 3:

Actually, you know, I cannot let anyone know that there's this softer side of me, and it's normally women, because we live in a patriarchal society and actually if we are soft and vulnerable and in our feminine, then somehow we're not coping. So it's those people, that kind of, you know, you can. The one phrase, because you know that horrible thing online where everyone goes well, what's the transformation? And I hate that question because I always want to be the rebel and say well, people get what they need. But actually the one phrase that every single person says is feel lighter, I can breathe again, I can feel again and I can be present again. Because they're not able to be present. It doesn't matter what they do, what they've got, what they've achieved, they cannot be present in what it is and there are so many um similarities in the work that we do and obviously we're working in different guises.

Speaker 2:

But I want to talk a little bit now around the whole concept of authenticity. So you've mentioned it a few times and I know for the work that I've done on the conversations you and I've had um around the connection that people have with themselves is when they find their true, authentic self. Some people will shine that straight away. Some people will go on a deeper transformational journey because they have had layers of people pleasing or overgiving or whatever journey they've been on to be able to feel safe enough to really show up in who they really are and what they're here to do. So let's talk about this because I'm excited to hear your response on, and then let's talk about the whole concept of authenticity or what's like your definition of either the people that you've worked through and what happens at the end of their journey, or just some of the ways that you've handled your life around this whole area of authenticity so for me, personally, it's, first of all I'd like to let me start with this bit, right?

Speaker 3:

so this is the message that was coming through as you were asking that question so how do we know someone's been their authentic selves, okay? So for me, like, it's very much a felt thing. So, for example, where you and I first met, there was, there was energy doesn't lie right, it just, it just cuts through that and immediately there's a heart connection. And heart connection doesn't mean romantic love, as most people think it is. It's like that, that that being plugged in to source, and it's like, hey, yeah, there's no figuring out who is this person, what, what, what do they mean? Did they mean that? Oh, what are they going to think? You don't feel any of that. It's, you know, a connection to source and it's like, yeah, that felt, that felt right, that felt like really real.

Speaker 3:

So for me, in authenticity, it's been a very interesting journey, um, and I feel like I've always lived in two different worlds culturally. So at home, uh, I was a very different person. There were different cultural layers that I had adhered to and I was very much the good girl, the eldest daughter of the family, um, you know, but I didn't always quite fit in because I'm such a rebel at heart, um, but I tried to tame that a lot because, you know, the belief was that you're not good if you're the rebel. Like you know, there are stereotypes that we needed to fit into. And then when I stepped out into my other world, which was school, eventually work and all the rest of it, I was this other person but I felt I didn't fit in there either. And so I still have that thing where I'm not quite sure where I fit in.

Speaker 3:

I don't know if I belong to England, where I was born. I don't know if I belong to India, because actually, where am I recognized as you are a citizen of this country? So I kind of have to reconcile myself with that is that I'm a citizen of the world and I belong everywhere and nowhere and that feels like a beautiful place for me. You know I belong where my heart feels connected. I love that should be saying, um, most people when they see me outside of kind of a therapy space in the work that I do, they're like oh, you're actually quite fun, aren't you? And I was like, yeah, so everyone goes grief coach. Oh, you're really serious, I have a very mischievous nature, but I also have this other side of me. That's a very deep, serious side, can't do small talk and I think, charlotte, you understand this. It's knowing that we are made up of so many different parts and in different circumstances, a different part of you needs to kind of step up and I think, yeah, that would be my take on authenticity.

Speaker 2:

I love that, yeah, knowing which part of you is leading in any given moment. I guess when we met, at this party.

Speaker 2:

Probably, to be fair, both of our fun plays were out first of all, but then it was straight into the depth and I think sometimes, when you are that sort of person, you and I are very similar in that way. It is very hard to um do the surface level, small talk, or just like try and like bumble along. That's not necessarily something that likes you up. You've either got to I personally believe, and a lot of people I work with believe this you've got to find what it is that really um lights, that passion in the depth of your soul that allows you to really shine um, and I think authenticity is something that just keeps coming up more and more and more people I talk to about being your true self in a depth, in a real multi-faceted way, in in terms of I know for some of the people that I speak to, there's a piece around, yeah, but in this area of my life I want to be like this, and in this area I want to be like this and this, and now I'm like, yeah, but we want to look at your whole holistic life and I think, from our conversation, we want to also look at this permission piece of actually allowing yourself to know that you're going to die at some point.

Speaker 2:

So when you reframe your life and I know in positive psychology this is an exercise we do when you reframe your life and know that that's a given and you kind of like backtrack and go well, how do you really want to be A, be a remembered, but also how would you like to live your life if you knew that? Because we all know that. But, like you say, there's a taboo and there's an ignorance in some ways about people not addressing it, whereas when you go from the standpoint of, actually, you know what I, I, this is what I would love to do and this is going to be a driver for me. And I think there's an education piece around that, because I know in pod psych there's a lot of people that are just freaked out by this whole graveyard exercise that we can do and this is just really dark and it actually it's so insightful on so many levels because you really, when you do the exercise, you work yourself through it, you really get to see what is important for you.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, you know, charlotte, I always think that it's when we sit in the dark that we see the light within ourselves. We can't see it otherwise. We just cannot see it otherwise. And yeah, it's okay. It's okay to talk about the sad stuff, the uncomfortable stuff, the difficult stuff, because actually, if we're talking about transformation, it's in those places, those spaces, those topics where we can transform.

Speaker 3:

I was talking to one today, one of my clients and her little one's experiencing anxiety, and she was like she was uncomfortable and not sure as to how to approach the conversation. And I was like, just talk about it, it's okay, it doesn't have to be roses, all of it. Let's just talk about it and say it's normal that we're going to feel sad, that we're going to feel heartbroken sometimes, you know, and it's normal that we're going to have periods of our life where it feels like everything is going to pot, you know. And then it's like that Vumi quote, it's like we're being broken open. Do we have the tools, are we equipped to open to that? And, you know, take the journey that we need to take. It's okay, like it's nice to be positive sometimes, but like I don't understand it, my soul does not understand it.

Speaker 2:

I think me too.

Speaker 2:

I think the whole richness of life is about the emotions that we go through and the experiences that we have, and that's what makes us who we are and I feel so much in life for some people.

Speaker 2:

I know there's some people and this is about fear, a fear that actually, when they open themselves up or when they go, actually you know what, it's time for me to look at this, that or the other um, like some of your clients, I imagine, come to you with this, that and the other, and you know it's grief, but they haven't got that awareness when they realize it's time. I think it was a real strong fear that they're going to open themselves up and then they're going to lose everything or they're going to not be able to function at work, or they're not going to be able to do anything other than the real fear of change and a real fear that goes into the lack part of well, it's just going to be worse, or there's going to be you know I'm going to not love or there's a real dilemma for people before they, you know, take the leap to work with somebody like yourself. Is that what happened?

Speaker 3:

yeah. So um, I've just finished a group uh program and on our closing one that was one of the um. You know I do this whole personal manifesto with people at the end, so we look at how things were in the beginning and how they are right now, after four months together. And so many of them cited their one fear as being when I open Pandora's box, I'm never going to be able to stop crying, I am never going to be able to shut the box again and my whole life is going to disintegrate because I won't be able to keep it together. There's things about that. So the first thing is that most people don't realize they're living in Pandora's box. You're in it already and you don't even realize you haven't closed the lid on anything. You're in it.

Speaker 3:

And the other thing is that my mentor taught me the amazing David Kessler from the states is that no feeling is final. No feeling is ever, ever final, and we have to trust that that everything moves. Everything moves. You know and and you're, all you're doing is you're shedding these layers of divorce and separation and abuse and breakdown and all these layers are weighing you down. You're holding it there. You're going to only feel better once you start to release that stuff. So and it's people take a while um to trust that and people take a while to um really know that that's how. That's how it's going to end up. But when they do, everything changes. And that's the thing, because grief affects all areas of your life oh, I imagine.

Speaker 2:

Well, I know personally, but there's a huge ripple effect for me personally, so affected how I, how I slept, uh, how I interacted with people, how I was as a mom. You know every, every possible element of my life. Um, when I've experienced the typical grief in terms of losing somebody, then yeah, everything kind of just goes um a-roll, doesn't it?

Speaker 2:

for some um period of time until you find your new normal or your new adjustment as to whatever it is. So thank you so much for sharing all of that. Let my uh, let the listeners know a little bit about how they can work with you. Um, in terms, you've talked about a group programme and one-to-one. Are they the main ways that people can work with you, if they have listened to this and are resonating with how you speak and how you talk about different things, but also think that it might be grief, think it might be something else, because I think this is a key part of our conversation today.

Speaker 2:

You said it yourself when you were first tapped on the shoulder at 21 and the grief coach said to you it's grief. And you went what? And you said that your clients are the same. They come to you and they're like you know they would. They just wouldn't have recognized that they may have had these physical stuff like the anxiety and depression and all sorts of addictions or whatever like that, and then not realize that. What, what, um? The insight for people listening is, apart from feeling stuck, are there any other commonalities that you would say for them to go? Oh, yeah, actually that it's time to have a call with you yeah.

Speaker 3:

So, um, people are very welcome to book in a discovery call if they want to kind of explore things. But the signs to look out for is, um, everything on the outside is right, but nothing feels right inside. Okay, feeling numb, anxiety, top symptom, depression, um, sleeplessness. Uh, the physical symptoms to look out for are digestive issues that don't make any sense. You're eating so well, you know, you take your supplements, you do all the things, but you literally can't absorb life. So, um, yeah, digestive symptoms, uh, insomnia, panic attacks, anxiety and just a feeling of flatlining, like you're just flatlining through life. You've got everything, but it feels like you haven't gotlining through life. You've got everything, but it feels like you haven't got anything at all. Um, and your relationships are difficult because you're being overly reactive, uh, and you can never be present. There's another good one you're not able to be present. It doesn't matter what it is you're doing. Your mind is always either on to the next thing or thinking about something in the past.

Speaker 2:

So, yeah, and um, underneath this podcast, we'll put all the ways to work with you. Um, if there is a one-to-one and then group program, is that kind of all on the cards, or yeah, so we?

Speaker 3:

can work one-to-one. It's in a very, very structured way through my heart recovery framework, because grief can be old and unwieldy and we can sit with our therapist and talk about grief forever, but I want people, especially our high performers. They want to know this is what we're going to do and this is how we're going to do it. Yeah, um, and they get given lots of tools through it. So you've got your three months, six months, and we kind of talk about that, depending on how many layers they are, um, and then there's also a more accessibly priced grief program, group one where they have pre-recorded modules, and then we have bi-monthly calls as a group as well. And there's also, if you're just kind of put a dipping your toe in, if you have experience to bereavement.

Speaker 3:

I wrote a grief journal at the height of COVID, after I lost my beautiful dad, because there's always so much more to say. That's what it's called. You can find that on Amazon, um, yeah, but just drop me an email. Uh, yeah, connect with me on Instagram, facebook, and I'll be very, very happy to have a chat brilliant, and all of those details will be underneath the podcast, like usual.

Speaker 2:

Um. And my final question don't do that, I ask everybody is about um, a book that you have read that has made an impact in either why you do what you do, or overcoming fear, or just made you reclaim life in some way, shape or form love this question, so I'm just going to say big leap.

Speaker 3:

But I think everyone says big leap. But there is another book that totally changed my approach to everything in life and it's called it's Not your Money and it's by an amazing lady called Tosha Silver. So, like many people, I used to believe in the whole manifestation culture and, you know, whatever I do, I can achieve it. It used to happen. But then things stopped working and the hustle I was hustling, hustling, hustling and I was burnt out and I started to really kind of, you know, suffer because of it and things started mounting up and I had this terrible anxiety over everything in my life, not just money. It was like I don't know how to do anything. What's going on? And so someone said to me read this book. And I was like, okay, so I read this book and it changed my whole approach to life and I have learned now what true surrender means.

Speaker 3:

I have learned now how to really listen to the guidance that we're being given in every moment. I have learned now how to really listen to the guidance that we're being given in every moment. I have learned now how to just hand stuff over and say, okay, this is the issue. I'm handing it over. Please show me a solution. And the solution always, always comes and it's helped me to really trust in the fact that there is a bigger plan and when we follow the energetic guidance, it really feels like our soul remembers, our soul contracts the reason that we're here, um, and it really helps you to tune into your heart and that energetic guidance so it helps me to live with faith and surrender and I love it and it's it's focused around money, but that just now extends out to everything in my life. I just trust and I follow.

Speaker 2:

I love that, very much love that. I'm going to read that straight away.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, you'll enjoy it.

Speaker 2:

I will. I am looking forward to it, especially when you say it's changed my life. I love it when people have polls like that, like yeah, this is great, I've got to read it. I'm really excited about reading it. Um, thank you so so much for your time and your knowledge and the very, very rich conversation that we have had. I've absolutely loved having you on and I know that there will be another time where we will talk about another topic, because we you and I together have immense conversations on various different topics that I know will play a part in the Becoming Fairless podcast. So thank you so so much for your time.

Speaker 3:

So good to speak with you, Charlotte. Thank you for having me on.

Speaker 2:

You are so welcome. So, like I said earlier, just look underneath the podcast for details of how to get a hold of Dixie and send her a message, and she will definitely reply and have a chat with you if you feel called to um exploring some of her services. So take care of yourself and I will see you on the next episode thank you for tuning into this week's episode.

Speaker 1:

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